Procrastination vs Intelligent Stalling

For as long as I can remember, I've been called a procrastinator. Teachers, friends, and even family used this word to describe my way of delaying tasks or decisions. Honestly, it never felt good, but I accepted it because I figured they were probably right. That was the story I believed about myself.

That changed recently.

The other night, my wife Kandace and I were sitting in our Cauldron of Consciousness (our hot tub, where many discoveries are made) when she suddenly blurted out the phrase "Intelligent Stalling." The moment I heard it, something clicked. As I considered it, I felt like this huge weight I'd been carrying around was suddenly lighter.

Procrastination always seemed like such a negative thing—something wrong or broken in me that needed fixing. It meant I was lazy or scared of something. But Intelligent Stalling? That felt totally different—like I was doing something wise, something intentional. It meant recognizing that sometimes, timing matters and intuition counts for a lot.

When I look back now, I realize that many times when I delayed making decisions or doing certain things, it wasn’t because I was avoiding responsibility. It was because something inside me knew it wasn't quite the right moment. I was waiting, even if I didn't consciously know why.

Sure, some people might think this idea is just an excuse to hide anxiety, perfectionism, or fear of failure. And yes, that's definitely worth looking into. But for me, Intelligent Stalling feels more like waiting for clarity and alignment, not avoidance.

Here’s what Intelligent Stalling looks like in real life: • Saying “not yet” even if people around you expect immediate action. • Taking your time moving toward your goals, because you trust the process. • Feeling comfortable knowing that more insights or inspiration might come if you just give it a little space. • Letting ideas and creativity flow naturally, instead of forcing them out because they're on a to-do list.

And here’s how it feels: • Peaceful, not pressured. • Expansive, instead of guilt-ridden. • Confident and calm, not frantic.

When I pause like this, I usually find that better opportunities or deeper insights come up. Quick decisions can often feel shallow or incomplete. Intelligent Stalling creates the room for deeper intuition and alignment. Maybe it's even the universe’s way of gently nudging us to slow down and really engage with what we're doing.

I've experienced this many times with creative projects and problem-solving tasks. Often, my first ideas don't feel right or complete. Instead of rushing ahead, I step back and let the idea breathe. Not by overthinking (which I admit can happen), but by trusting the answer is already within me, waiting for the right moment to surface. I can see how working or living with someone who has these traits can be frustrating. Just ask the crews that have worked with me, or even my spouse!

Now, I'm not saying this is an excuse to be lazy. Believe me, my mom called me lazy enough times that I started believing it. And I get why someone might see me that way. But it wasn't laziness—it was my own kind of intuitive knowing that moving too quickly wasn't the answer.

Of course, sometimes I really do procrastinate, especially with tasks I dread. But now I can clearly see the difference between procrastination and Intelligent Stalling, and it helps me approach things more thoughtfully and kindly.

If you've ever felt stuck with that procrastinator label, maybe try looking at those moments differently. Was your gut telling you to wait for better timing or more clarity? Or was it really avoidance?

Allowing yourself to honor this process—to wait, to listen, to trust—can be deeply rewarding. It opens the door to bountiful opportunities and a richness of experience that rushing often misses. I’ve had moments where I let something sit, unsure why, only to have the perfect solution or opportunity show up out of the blue—better than anything I could’ve forced into being. It’s like giving an idea or decision time to ripen quietly, and then suddenly, it’s ready—and it’s so much sweeter than I expected. It’s like an avocado: if you cut into it too early, it’s hard and flavorless. But if you give it just the right amount of time, it becomes creamy, rich, and perfect.

Intelligent Stalling isn’t about avoiding tasks. It’s about deeply trusting your inner wisdom. Maybe it's time we all start trusting that inner voice a bit more while also staying open to understanding what's really behind our hesitations.

in other words, maybe i'm not procrastinating, I'm just waiting for Divine WiFi.

Yours in evolution,

Gregory Loewen

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